The Truth About Spankings

I think most people think adult spankings are like the fake ones seen on the web or the painful ones they got from an angry parent. Nothing can be further from the truth. I personally have never found an adult site that gives men a real actual believable spanking, so I started one of my own! I’m Molly, and I just love to give men real spankings

There are really 2 types of spankings: punishment spankings which are meant to hurt, and erotic spankings which are sensual. Erotic spankings are very real with lots of very hard swats but they do not hurt at all and are meant to be fun! I only do erotic spankings. I think most couples try it once, do it wrong and never try it again. It takes practice, the more you do it the better both of you get and it has to be done right. Communications and planning are critical. Even more important both of you have to be relaxed, willing to really involve yourself and have some fun!

I can assure everyone you that there is no pain, when done right! The bottom can hardly feel the hard swats and at the most experiences only a mild warm sting that goes away quickly. Knowing this I feel free to really get into my roll which I really enjoy too! Yes, the spankings I give me are very real and enjoyable for both of us! It’s a fun, safe, harmless activity for both people and it honestly does not cause any lasting discomfort at all.

At first I used code words to communicate during the spanking, but it got really frustrating and complicated so I gave up code words. Now I just talk which makes it much more enjoyable, intimate and easier for both of us. It also took a while to realize that we need to start a spanking with lots of cuddling, fondling, and fooling around while talking about what we’re going to be doing. We talk about what position, how I’m going to spank him, the various parts (see below) we‘ll go through, and anything that we can think of to make it even more fun. This really sets the mood helps us “get into it”.

The following is some simple tips I’ve learned from experience. An erotic spanking has several parts and couples should allow a minimum of at least 1 hour or longer to complete. If either partner is feeling rushed or stressed it guarantees the spanking will be a total failure!

Part 1, The Warm-up. The warm-up period should be the longest part of the spanking, a minimum of 10 or more minutes and should never be hurried. Always wear shorts or a covering for the warm-up. I and I like using a towel just laid over the bare butt. It’s sexy, it provides good cushioning, and is easy to pull aside to rub the butt. Give swats in groups of at least a dozen, starting each group with very light swats and working towards medium swats. Follow each group with a bare butt rub, than cover the butt and start again. Don’t take a break or stop the spanking for more than just a few seconds or you’ll have to start totally over. Spread the swats all around the butt area. Repeat this pattern of swats and rubbing over and over. The butt will start getting a bit of color which means the warm up is working and the butt is getting less sensitive. The warm-up needs to continue, don’t stop yet! Ask your partner if they’re ready before continuing on to part 2.

Part 2, Preparing The Butt: This is done with the butt bare and involves increasing the strength of the swats at the end of each group. Slowly increase the number of swats in each group also. Part 2 should be the second longest phase of the spanking, a minimum 10 minutes and should never be hurried. Don’t take a break or stop the spanking or the butt will quickly become very sensitive. This is why we like the towel, we just toss it aside and keep going. Group the swats as in part 1. Starting each group with very light swats like before, but now building to harder solid medium swats. Again rub the bare butt between groups. Repeat this swats and rubbing pattern over and over. Spread the swats around, you’ll see the color start to increase but that doesn‘t mean you can stop!!! Ask your partner if they’re ready before moving on to part 3.

Part 3, The Spanking: Unfortunately it’s at this stage that a lot of new couples get “cold feet“ and stop. The hard work is now done and what‘s left is the fun part! Everything is now ready, the butt is now numb and the actual erotic spanking starts. The big difference will be the hardness of the swats. The butt remains bare. Group the swats as before but now start each group with solid medium swats building towards the hardest ones. Continue rubbing the butt in between groups, repeating the cycle over and over. As the spanking continues the number of hard swats and the strength of the hard swats needs to slowly increase to maintain insensitivity in the butt. It’s very important now that both people relax, and actually get into the spanking and just have fun with it!!! Let the person being spanked determine when to stop the spanking. You may be surprised how many of those real hard swats they can take before asking you to stop, their butt really isn’t feeling anything painfull and no harm is being done!!!

Part 4, Cooling Down: Last is the cool down and it should last at least 5 minutes. Don’t just stop the spanking completely dead cold. Continue the spanking but immediately reduce the strength of the swats to medium for awhile and than slowly reduce them down to light. The cool down phase is very important and eliminates any chances of marks, possible bruising, or unwanted pain that could result if the spanking is just stopped. Tradition is that all good erotic spankings always end with a nice long bare butt rub down. Vist My Amateur Site For Real Pictures & Videos!