Women Spanking Men - Giving Him His First Spanking!

You’re a woman, and you’ve never spanked a man before but would like to. What should you do?

In many ways, this is easier than wanting to be spanked yourself, because you can take a more active role. However, unless your man is already into receiving spankings, or unless your desires are satisfied by giving fairly mild spankings, you’ll probably want to talk to your partner about your desires sooner or later.

First, be clear about your desires. If you can’t get turned on except by giving a fairly severe spankings, you may well end up having to find someone who is already into being spanked. While most people can end up dealing with mild spankings, severe spanking is definitely not a taste that you can or should expect someone to acquire.

If you can be satisfied by giving playful, relatively mild spankings, however, there are still some issues to keep in mind.

First, before even thinking about the spanking, think about the emotional aspects. Never spank someone for a ‘real’ fault or mistake unless your relationship already has that aspect to it. Never suggest that your partner is submissive in any way, shape, or form, other than in taking a spanking, unless your relationship already has that aspect to it. Most importantly, learn and respect your partner’s preferences in dealing with a spanking; you’re already asking to do something different to your man; don’t push your man into bad emotional states at the same time!

Next, start slowly. The best ‘first swats’ is one that is given over some clothing as a teasing or playful gesture. This lets you measure your partner’s emotional reaction to spanking, and lets you decide if you want to press the issue. Be careful on those first few swats! A single spank that hits too hard might give your partner the idea that you’re into ‘pain’, not ’spanking’.

If your partner reacts well to these initial swats, you’ll want to bare his butt and try some more swats. If you do so, however, go slowly and be careful! Yes, it can be a bit embarrassing to admit that you would like to take your partner over your knee and administer a good spanking; it can be a lot worse to have to explain why you hurt him, either physically or emotionally.

In any case, patience is an absolute necessity. If your man isn’t ‘naturally’ into spanking, you have to make sure that every spanking you administer is a pleasant experience. Since the spanking itself my not be pleasant, make sure that your man always gets something pleasant out of the experience. This helps link your playful spankings to pleasure for your man, and will actually help your partner enjoy more and even harder spankings.

Work slowly, not just physically, but psychologically. If your partner ends up enjoying light spanks over his underwear, do not assume that your man will like the same ‘physical level’ of spanks on the bare bottom! There is little physical difference, but the psychological difference is immense.

Give Him A Treat After Spanking Him

When working on an uncertain person, spank fairly gently, and mix your hard spanks with softer ones, and with lots of rubbing and caresses. Even a person who doesn’t specifically like spankings might learn to enjoy a few hard swats to bring about a sting, followed by kisses and caresses for contrast.

Finally, and most importantly, let your man be your guide. Learn to read your partner for signs that say when you’re spanking too hard. Also learn to read your man for when you’ve actually gotten to the ‘right’ level of spanking! While your spankings may simply be something your partner ‘puts up with’ for the pleasure of being your lover, it’s even better if you both end up enjoying the spankings.